Yes, I am still alive! I have been MIA for A WHILE. I really have no other excuse other than physical life demanded more attention and that I’ve lost my mojo with blogging. I think I started ‘falling off’ my routine when I got sick back in September all the way to October. I was negotiating with myself that if I stop blogging, I need to start vlogging. Two of my so-called passion in life. You know how you envision yourself doing things you love, enjoying it every moment and as bonus, earning from it? I get those moments, every single day, yet I always find myself putting it off for another day! I have high dreams for my mommy blog and our family vlog on YouTube. I truly do! But I got ‘lazy’ from writing simply because I didn’t want to talk about my problems here. Not that I want this blog to look like my life is all perfect (I hate those kind of blogs!), but I didn’t want it to be negative in THAT WAY. You see, I often engage in a battle with my self whether I should talk about our challenges in parenting, how Joaquin’s first year was a mix of happiness, disappointment and realizations, or my anxiety. See? That already seems a lot! So I decided to keep quiet instead and just take a break.

I think I’ve rested well enough and I’m ready to power through. Now I’m not promising that I will be blogging or vlogging daily (can you imagine juggling both?), but I will be more, hmm, productive and present in my little home online. It’s been a year of hiding behind happy faces and social media since I have given birth to Joaquin. I think I’m ready to share our life with all of you again. But promise not to judge (yeah right :D)! Oh, and Oscar will be helping more with the vlogging so it won’t just be my face in there anymore. What a relief! As much as I like being on camera, it’s family channel and it can’t be just me blabbing on. Hahaha!

In case you’re wondering how this realization came about, we finally got Joaquin dedicated at our Church in Victory Fort over the weekend. We have been waiting for a while and I think our ‘slot’ came in at the right time too. My spiritual journey has taken a halt. I haven’t been praying from the heart nor attending Church. I really do feel out of sync with life and it seems that it happens when I’m starting to become disconnected from Him. But at the Child Dedication ceremony, Pastor Dennis’ message on parenting and how we can’t help our children achieve our dreams in faith for them if we ourselves aren’t in line with Christ’ plans really woke me up. You know how we want our kids to be great readers or be creative? That simply cannot happen if we’re not reading with them or even encouraging them to read. I have been lenient, if anything, lax, with how we go about our days at home. It’s not good for Jacob even though we are homeschooling/unschooling him.

Wacky's Child Dedication at Victory Fort

Wacky’s Child Dedication at Victory Fort

For the past 2 months, I feel like I have been an absentee parent in a way that I am not really instilling any values or life lessons to my sons. Like I mentioned with reading, we didn’t really raise a reader in Jacob, but I know that it’s not yet too late. It’s just that I have been pabaya with him that I let him play without guidance too much. I started this week telling him that he cannot play video games for 7 days. Yes, he already knows how to play video games at such a young age. You can’t blame him though, his parents are gamers. Anyway, I didn’t completely ban him from electronics, he can still watch his cartoons. But I did start a reading session with him. There’s not really a set time or anything, just that we have to read a book orΒ  for the day no matter how short or long they are.

Jacob Homeschool

Jacob working on his daily worksheet that I got online.

And you know what? As part of our homeschooling/unschooling, I learned today that he has memorized the alphabet and knows how to write them in big and small letters. Wow. That happened with me being lax for the past 8 weeks. I applaud my husband for being a wonderful partner in this life and picking up my slack when needed. He got Jacob to do his letters (reading and tracing) almost every day. I would just practice with him with flash cards to see how much he knows from time to time. Praise God for giving me a husband and a father to my kids who care!

Well, this is getting pretty long for a return HELLO! I’m gonna need to backtrack a lot for the next couple of posts since I missed out on sharing fun memories on this blog. Please subscribe to our YouTube channel as well since we will have weekly vlogs there to start. I’ll be sharing them here too, but it will be super cool of you if you subscribed there! So many kwentos to come. πŸ˜€

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Roxi

Roxi is happily married and mom to two boys (#SantiagoBros!). Mommy blogger since 2010, work-at-home Mom as a virtual assistant and web designer at Mommy Mover.

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31 Comments

  1. Maerose JS says:

    I know parenting is a tough job. But you’re doing great! Congrats and can’t wait to read more about your journey with the fam! πŸ˜‰

  2. Gilian says:

    Hi. Glad to hear that you are back. Continue to share your stories and how you do your best in raising up a God-fearing family. Some mothers like me are also encouraged from some moms who blog about how they raise their kids. πŸ™‚ Keep it up. πŸ™‚

  3. Fred says:

    It is OK to miss out on some blogging activities if it means spending more time with the kids. About readers, I think it is nature rather than nurture. I read a lot, but my sons do not really like to read. I am disappointed, but I hope it will still turn around.

  4. Elizabeth O. says:

    Welcome back to the world of blogging! It’s really nice to be able to blog from time to time, it’s like therapy. You should be proud, your baby boy is progressing really well. He might not like reading at this time but he’s still young, I’m sure he’ll find something he’ll enjoy reading in the future.

  5. Erica says:

    I don’t have children of my own yet, but when I do, reading is going to be a daily habit in our household. It’s so essential and I’m going to make sure my kids learn to love it.

  6. Sometimes, there comes a time that we need to rest from our usual way of life. But resting is one of the element in reaching-out the goals in life. Welcome back and have fun again!

  7. Franc Ramon says:

    Good luck on your blogging or vlogging. I am sure you’ll find your motivations to pursue it. It’s a bit toxic to be always blogging but when everything is in sync, it would just go naturally.

  8. A lot of people are so skeptical about homeschooling but the people I know who are homeschooled excel far more than most people! Hope you guys keep up the great job πŸ˜€

  9. Sometimes you need a break and seems like you had one. As for your little one, that’s great that he nows his alphabet and is writing it. Good job mom and dad.

  10. Toni says:

    Welcome back to blogging then! πŸ™‚ And congratulations on your child’s dedication!

    Sometimes we do lose our mojo, not just for blogging but for other life’s activities. I can totally relate with that. It’s one way for our spirit to recharge. We may be more tired than we think is why!

  11. Jeypi Kyu says:

    i can’t imagine myself getting married soon.. moreso becoming a parent.. upon reading this it made me think if i am caught up to be a parent.. haha tough i guess i’ll eventually enter that phase in life sooner or later.. :)thanks for this. my futurewife will definitely love this post as well haha

  12. Hope you are fully recovered. Take a step at a time. If you are tired do take a break. Parenting takes a lot of our personal time and it a huge commitment to the family.

  13. Welcome back! It really feels weird to read your child’s name because it’s same as my son’s. Hehe

  14. what exactly is a dedication? is it a Christian baptism of some sort? Sorry I’m not quite familiar with it.

  15. Hi Roxi! I feel you. When I started a business less than a year ago, blogging had to take a backseat. I tried juggling my administering over a new business (that initially lacked reliable staff) and being hands-on with my family (that still is short of reliable household staff). Plus I tried blogging in between. The result was chaotic. So I focused on what matters most first. When I finally got the right people, my blog welcomed me back.

    By the way, we also attend Victory. My Victory Group helped a lot in keeping me sane during my stressful days. πŸ˜‰

    • Mommy Roxi says:

      Yes! We have to do or actually, we have a lot of things we WANT to do, but obviously we can’t do them all at the same time in the beginning. I’m slowly getting things organized in this crazy life. It just go a little bit out of hand!

      Oh I’m excited to find our own Victory Group! Do you and your husband go to the same one? Would you advise that or should we have our own separate VGroup?

  16. Welcome back!

    I’m really excited to hear more about your parenting adventures. Kids can be so hard to deal with sometimes but it’s quite enjoyable to hear mommies out there telling about how they handle things.

  17. Dannea says:

    Glad to hear that you are coming out of your difficulties and ready to power through blogging again. The best of luck to you, your family and your vlog!

  18. I’m glad you’re back. You’re healthy, back on track and your family is doing great. πŸ™‚
    I used to go to Victory Fort and listen to Paster J. Bonifacio. See you there!

  19. Lee Rosales says:

    Great that youre back in blogging! Being a mom is not an easy task! We need to juggle all things at the same time

  20. Janice says:

    Don’t be too hard on yourself, Roxi. These things happen to the best of us. Motherhood, and life in general, can become overwhelming. A break from blogging really helps. You just gotta do what you gotta do, right?

    Regarding homeschooling, I’ve only started regularly “teaching” Ziggy at home but sometimes our schedule is just so hectic that we don’t get to follow our homeschool routine. But that’s fine. I’ve learned to relax about it. I see Ziggy learning new stuff every day without me hovering over him. That’s part of what makes homeschooling great, right? πŸ™‚

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